Finding support, safety, and hope this International Day of Non-Violence.
For many people, the International Day of Non-Violence is a reminder of the importance of safety, respect, and compassion in our relationships and communities. For others, however, violence is not simply a topic of awareness, it is something they have experienced firsthand.
As psychologists, we often see the impact that difficult and traumatic experiences can have on a person’s wellbeing. Leaving an abusive relationship can be one of the most challenging transitions a person faces, and knowing where to seek support is not always easy.
I don’t know where to start
If you’ve recently left a domestic violence situation, you may be feeling a mix of emotions. You might feel relieved, frightened, overwhelmed, angry, confused, hopeful, or exhausted. You may be trying to rebuild your life while navigating practical challenges, difficult memories, and uncertainty about the future.
Amidst all of this, you might find yourself thinking:
“I know I need support, but I don’t know where to start.”
If that’s where you are right now, please know that you’re not alone. We have provided some supports below that you can access.
I don’t know how to talk about it
One of the biggest misconceptions about seeking help is that you need to have your story organised before reaching out. The reality is that many people don’t know what to say. Domestic violence can leave people questioning themselves, doubting their experiences, and struggling to make sense of what has happened.
You do not need to have the perfect words. You do not need to explain everything. Sometimes the first step is simply saying, “I’m struggling,” or “I think I need some support.” That is enough.
Why does asking for help feel so hard?
It’s natural to find it difficult to ask for help, because abuse often impacts confidence, self-worth and trust. You may worry that people won’t understand, that others have experienced worse, or that your situation wasn’t serious enough.
These thoughts are common, but they don’t mean you have to face things on your own. Your experiences matter, and so does your wellbeing.
Who can I talk to?
Finding support doesn’t have to mean sharing every detail of your story. A trusted friend, family member, GP, psychologist, support worker, or domestic violence service can provide a safe space to talk about what you’re experiencing right now.
You might want support with anxiety, low mood, sleep difficulties, adjusting to life after leaving, or simply making sense of the emotions you’re carrying. A good support person will meet you where you are and move at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
What might healing look like?
Healing is different for everyone. For some people, it means learning to feel safe again. For others, it involves rebuilding confidence, reconnecting with their values, developing healthy boundaries, or learning to trust themselves once more.
Recovery is rarely a straight line. There will be easier days and harder days. That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It simply means you’re healing.
What can I do for myself right now?
Your first step towards healing after leaving a domestic violence situation doesn’t have to be a big one, but seeking support is one of the bravest things you can do for your wellbeing.
The next step might simply be a conversation with your GP, or a psychologist. They do not expect you to have the “right” words to explain your experience or the supports you need. Your GP or psychologist will ask you some questions so you do not have to try to figure out the words and solutions alone.
We have provided some supports below.
Where can I find support?
MIFWA Psychology Clinic
If you’re finding it difficult to cope with the emotional impact of your experiences, talking to a psychologist may help. You can request an appointment with or without a referral.
Learn more about our psychology clinic or request an appointment.
1800RESPECT
24-hour national counselling and support service for people affected by domestic, family, or sexual violence.
📞 1800 737 732
🌐 www.1800respect.org.au
Women’s Domestic Violence Helpline (WA)
24-hour information, support, and referral service for women experiencing family and domestic violence.
📞 1800 007 339
Men’s Domestic Violence Helpline (WA)
Support, information, and referrals for men affected by family and domestic violence.
📞 1800 000 599
Crisis Care (WA)
Emergency support and assistance outside business hours.
📞 1800 199 008
Lifeline
24-hour crisis support and suicide prevention service.
📞 13 11 14
🌐 www.lifeline.org.au
Beyond Blue
Mental health information and support.
📞 1300 22 4636
🌐 www.beyondblue.org.au
This article provides general information only and is not a substitute for specialised family and domestic violence support, legal advice, or crisis services. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000. 💜
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